A satirical analogy to argue the destructive effects of the ubiquity of porn

In my high school psychology class I remember the teacher explaining that we cannot control whether or not our eyes dilate when we see things we want. So, for example, what causes men's eyes to dilate the most? duh, naked women. now for the tough one, guys. What causes a woman's eyes to dilate? ... $$$? clothes? chocolate? ummm something that's a symbol of power? 20 minutes before they gave up & she gave us girls a shot. I said "babies" & a guy in the back (I think Randy Stone) interjected "Naked babies!? you're sick!"
On that note, since men driven to seek sex by sight & women are driven to seek motherhood through all senses, what if there were an industy which offered young girls of an impressionable age (say, 11 or 12) the tactile experience of playing with a cute baby whenever they wanted, on demand, yet without any of the unpleasant responsibilities or aspects of a real baby, such as dirty diapers, spitting up, messy feedings, fussiness when tired, illnesses, etc.
How could anyone argue that this is exploiting or dehumanizing the babies? We would only allow cute, well tempered babies to participate of course, & when they reach an age of getting into things & the tantrums of toddlerhood we would just grant them $$ & let their nannies/parents deal with them.
The young girls who participate would of course just enjoy the experience and still understand that the experience was unrealistic and drop those expectations when they actually become parents and not resent their own babies for the realities of their existence in infancy or as they grow into toddlers and older children. They might even want to become nannies of the industry themselves and deal with all those unpleasant realities just so that other young girls could enjoy the pleasant experiences with the babies. Of course they would NEVER choose that program over their own real life children!
This is only to point out that though women are as capable as men of growing into mature adults, the flat charicatures presented by the porn industry are as realistic as babies who never cry or poop & sleep on demand. And the men who watch it and find it as arousing as real sex are analogous to 11 yr old girls playing with babies and assuming they have the ability to be mothers.
We may have stumbled upon the reason young girls buy prom dresses from stripper websites and teenage boys roll their eyes and say "Bitches man, u know how they be" as soon as a teenage girl resents disrespectful behavior and demands to be treated better. Unfortunately this unhealthy cycle is repeated in our society at infinitum.
PS, I wrote this as my lovely daughter giggled and played nearby. She's about as close to one of those dream babies as anyone could find :) I try not to hold this expectation for any of her siblings!

Healthy Balance of attachment parenting

So thanks for the loan of the Time article with the infamous cover. :) (you know who you are) But despite the aweful cover & "Are you mom enough?" challenge, it was an interesting article. What really got me was the sentence "the prevalenceof this philosophy [attachment parenting] has shifted mainstream American parenting toward a style that's more about parental devotion and sacrafice than about raising self-sufficient kids."
It's a hot issue for Jerry & I after struggling to "Ferberize" our daughter, Faith's sleep habits & while we read Boundaries with Kids by Cloud & Townsend about how to hold children accountable & discipline them appropriately to their stages of development.
It has always struck me that a healthy balance faces the enemy of both extremes & this seems to be the case of every vital spiritual battle. Dr. Sears bio was interesting, & it seems obvious that he doesn't endorse parenting that drains the parent of any humanity for every physical whim of the child. This is crippling & dangerous to a child in later stages of life but I am SO GRATEFUL for the scientific insight attachment parenting has given to the 1st three months of an infants' life!
It's interesting that the cover Time chose for "Tiger Mom" was slightly less *shocking.* I don't understand why society has such a difficult time accepting that life grows through STAGES, each of which requires it's own challenges & graces. When I read the Femenine Mystique I was most persuaded by her argument that although mothers VITALLY NEED TO SPEND THE 1ST YEARS OF LIFE HOME with their children before school, mothers should have educations and careers once the children are more self-sufficient. Somehow modern society changed her message from the 1st few years of life to the 1st six weeks! What's suprising to me is how many WOMEN judge one another for taking more/less time off of work for maternity leave and pumping or formula feeding, etc. Why not be grateful that we are all blessed to make the choices we can & do what we can to help other families?! I know most of you are my friends because you share the same sentiments and so I am preaching to the choir or venting for the most part.
I previously wrote during pregnancy of my frustration with the lack of part time work available to young parents, despite how beneficial it would be to the families and the economy. Why is it so dang difficult for people to use common sense?! Please pray that we can find part time work.